Warped Reality

I can’t remember the last time I went out with a fellow millennial and had a full conversation without a cell phone distraction. It’s almost become a rule that I have my phone out on the table just to fit in. I really only look at it to check the time, which I’m pretty sure I do to distract myself from the anxiety I often feel in social situations. So why, at 26, do I feel so awkward in these outings? Because they are awkward. Nowadays, when I go out with a friend, it’s basically as if I have gone out alone. By the time my company has answered a phone call, accepted a LinkedIn connection from a complete stranger, written a follow-up an email, sent five texts, snapchatted their boyfriend, updated fantasy sports teams, looked up scores from around the league, checked us in at our location on Twitter, FourSquare and Facebook, tweeted a photo of our meal, uploaded the same photo to instagram (#nofilter) and posted it again on pinterest, it’s been so long since a word has been spoken that I could have read an entire book. A real book. With a spine and paper pages that I have to turn.

Don’t get me wrong, I obviously don’t want to disown technology. After all I am writing this blog post and I will tag it to reach a wider audience. I am guilty as charged. But enough is enough. I’m taking a step back. I just think there is a line that has been crossed. People are so obsessed with having it all (and instantaneously) that we rarely take into account which apps best serve our needs. Have we lost the ability to be selective? Do we a really need 20 versions of the same thing? Maybe it’s just me. Over the last few months I’ve deleted Facebook, Pinterest, Tumblr, and Medium, leaving me with Twitter, WordPress, Gmail and Whatsapp (which isn’t even that short of a list, but I’m making progress).

I know I will never go out with someone of my generation and have their undivided attention (nor will they have mine), but it would be a nice change if people were more interested in developing the relationships right in front of them rather than those with people they have never met. I understand if people disagree and yes, there are always exceptions to the rules. But seriously, worry about maintaining your mayor status, uploading photos and appealing to your digital friends on your own time. I’m pretty sure they won’t be there for you when you really need them.

I’m trying to change. It’s not easy – but so far it’s worth it.


~ by wanderlust1011 on November 21, 2013.

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